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Movie Review: The New Girlfriend

September 24, 2025 by Christopher ZF Leave a Comment

Anaïs Demoustier in THE NEW GIRLFRIEND Photo Courtesy of Cohen Media Group

If Francois Ozon was a painter his work would be entirely in red, his canvass the human body, and his inspiration… not sex, per se, but the intonations of sexuality. He is interested in the strange overlays of life and sexuality and looks upon them with curiosity and a real desire to portray, judgment free, our proclivities.

But Ozon is not a painter. He’s a filmmaker. And so he uses his writing and camera to capture the curving, shifting rise and fall of sex and self and loss and love. This endeavor Ozon undertakes again, with The New Girlfriend, and once again, he does it very, very well.

The film opens on a funeral, where a young woman is seen in her coffin, wearing a wedding dress, as the church organ plays “Here Comes the Bride.” The moment is terribly incongruent, and cannot help but cause audiences to smile even as the funeral that proceeds reaches into real sadness and despair.

Funerals, like so many other human events, often drive us into strange emotional corners that we’d rather avoid. Such is the case for Claire in the weeks after the death of her best friend, Laura. At the service, Claire gives a beautiful eulogy in which she promises to look out for Laura’s husband David, and their baby, Lucie.

Despite her promise to care for Lucie and help David move on, Claire refuses to visit their home. She is unable to cope with the thought of seeing her dead best friend’s daughter. But at the behest of her husband Gilles, she makes the journey to David’s house, where she finds a woman feeding Lucie her bottle.

It takes a moment for Claire to grasp the sight before her, but she does eventually realize that this woman is David, dressed in Laura’s clothing, playing mother to his daughter.

What unfolds from that moment is an emotional psychodrama that mines deep reaches of grief, sexual desire, and human connection. Ozon presents his drama in the heightened tones of a thriller, but one that follows none of the rules we have come to expect.

Audiences wait for some plot twist or character turn that will throw this story back into the conventions that we expect. There is romance, mystery, sexual exploration, marital strife, all the things that could take us to the conventional dramas of LGBT cinema or stories of infidelity. But Ozon, to his credit, never succumbs to the pull of such conventions.

And while story conventions are being upended, the two leads in The New Girlfriend, Anaïs Demoustier and Romain Duris, give striking, empathic performances; the revelations they have on-screen-big and small, sexual and social-are wondrous to behold.

Ozon’s stories often tread close (or over) the line that separates drama from melodrama, but the deep emotional currents he explores are often served by such an overt approach. 8 Women and Swimming Pool, the films that brought Ozon international acclaim a decade ago, carried this same hyper-dramatic air.

And like those pictures, The New Girlfriend is better as a result. Grief and sorrow and the inexplicable nature of sexuality are subjects that can withstand a certain level melodrama when they are done with the skill and intensity and unflinching fun of Ozon.

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Filed Under: Featured, Movies, Reviews Tagged With: Francois Ozon, Melodrama, Romance, Sexuality, The New Girlfriend, transgender

The Harry Potter Alliance’s Jackson Bird Comes Out as Transgender

May 15, 2025 by Christopher ZF 2 Comments

Transgender identity is difficult to talk about. This is in part because sexuality and gender identity are personal and sensitive topics for public conversation. But this difficulty also comes from a lack of education. On a language level, many of us just don’t know how to talk about trans identity.

This fact is not lost on Jackson Bird. Bird is currently the Communications Director of the Harry Potter Alliance, a fan-activist organization that uses the internet to turn a love of stories like Harry Potter or Hunger Games into organized social action. The group has figured out how to galvanize online fan passion for good, and used that knowledge to fight child slavery and battle economic inequality.

Those online efforts got another powerful, affirming video this week, when Bird, a 25-year old Texas native now living in New York City, posted a video to YouTube in which he comes out as transgender.

Any instance of coming out is one to be celebrated, and Jackson’s video is courageous. It provides a positive model for trans youth of proclaiming one’s identity with pride. It also has important messages for the straight community. What makes Jackson’s video important for heteronormative viewers is the frank recognition of how hard it is just to talk about gender identity. “For anyone who is not familiar with exactly what that means,” he says half way through his 12 minute video, “it’s basically everything I’ve just said.”

Bird takes the time to educate his viewers about how media representation has failed trans youth, how others can aid his transition, and how to simply speak to each other going forward.

But change is difficult, and education takes time. “I will be patient, I promise,” Jackson says, in a moment that calls out the deep privilege afforded by heteronormativity. “Even though I will point out that I have been being patient for 25 years.”

In the days since his video went live, I e-mailed with Bird, and asked him where he learned about gender and sexual identity growing up in Texas, why it’s so difficult to talk about gender equality, and why he decided it was time to come out.

You mention the number of times you have re-written this video, the amount of rehearsal in your head that went on throughout your life. How does it feel, having published and released it to the world?

I’ve written fragments of it for years so it feels really good to have put it all in order and made a complete script out of it. Having released it to the world is real weird. I’d been planning on releasing it on this day for so long and working so hard at various logistics that, in many ways, it just feels like what I had to do. I have to keep reminding myself that it was actually a very big deal.

I think I’m also still in shock. I’m still sifting through all the messages and stuff that I’ve gotten so I haven’t had too much time to adjust to life on the other side of coming out yet. Here and there I keep reminding myself like, “oh yeah, I can say [insert mundane part of my life] online now” because people know. It’ll be weird not having to filter things from a gender perspective anymore.

You’ve been involved in LGBT education efforts, but you’re most recent video, Coming Out, is a personal history. Why did you decide that now was the time to tell your own story?

I’ve been working up the strength to transition for five and a half years. A few months ago, I started planning the actual logistics of starting transition, which necessarily included telling the online community I’m a part of. Because my professional and social lives (as well as my internet and IRL lives) are so inextricably entwined, and because transitioning as transgender is much more physically visible than being open about your sexuality, the only way I could possibly do this without being public about it would be to quit my job, quit everything I do on the internet, stop talking to just about everyone I know, and move away or something. That used to be reality (and still is) for a lot of transgender people, but I knew it didn’t have to be for me because I’m a part of such a progressive, welcoming community. I knew they’d have my back. I just wasn’t sure about the rest of the world, the people I grew up with in Texas, my extended family. So I had to build up the strength in myself before I could share my story.

There hasn’t been a lot of education around transgender identity in the US. Where did you learn the language of gender identity?

I grew up in Texas so there wasn’t even basic sex education, let alone any discussion of LGBTQ issues. The only time I can remember a teacher ever mentioning something other than heterosexuality was when my biology teacher told us bisexual people were more susceptible to the flu.

Fortunately, my older brother always liked pushing the bounds of gender a bit too. He introduced me to Rocky Horror Picture Show, Eddie Izzard, and glam rock at a young age. I grew up idolizing anyone who rebelled against gender norms, but I had zero language to describe it and I didn’t think that any of it could apply to me. All the examples I saw were men experimenting with femininity - not women experimenting with masculinity.

I didn’t learn about the difference between the words sex and gender or that transgender people could be gay or that transitioning was even possible until I was a freshmen at Southwestern University (often referred to as the “Gomorrah to University of Texas’ Sodom” by Texans). It was a haven for liberal LGBTQA students and even had an openly genderqueer professor. Once I got some basic education, it was like seeing the world for the first time after having been in Plato’s cave. I started experimenting with my own identity and started consuming every single thing I could about trans issues. I watched documentaries and YouTube videos. I spent hours on trans Tumblrs, subreddits, and discussion boards. Once I transferred to New York University, I read every single book in the transgender section at Bobst Library. While the academic side of educating yourself is helpful, the more important thing is listening to real people and thinking critically about the complexities of all of their experiences.

You talk a lot about words in this video. From the words you used in your youth-sister, daughter, girlfriend-to the pronouns that now accurately describe your own identity. Why do you think it’s so hard to wrap words around sexuality and gender?

We’re always taught that words have power, but we don’t like words to mean different things than what we’re taught. We don’t like words to change. When we’re told we can’t say certain words because they have the potential to hurt or trigger someone or further systemic discrimination, we get annoyed at having to be “politically correct.” I think that’s a big part of why some people can have trouble switching names and pronouns or figuring out the right words to say when referring to other peoples’ identities and experiences. There’s also the fact that our basic education and media representation really sucks at explaining anything that’s not heteronormative. There’s a lot to it. We have a lot of work to do as a society. Equality for LGBTQ people isn’t going to happen when marriage equality is legal everywhere, just like we don’t live in a post-racial society just because Barack Obama is president. There is so so much more to it.

I think the most powerful moment in your video is when you state, calmly, “I will be patient.” Why is it so hard for so many people to talk about gender identity?

Huh, I didn’t expect that to be the most powerful moment at all. It’s interesting you thought that. I suppose one reason it’s hard for people to talk about gender identity is because they have a specific idea about who they think people are and it’s hard for them to rewire their brains to something else. It’s very difficult to know everything about a person, even if you are very close friends or family, but especially if the person is just someone you know of, like a public figure. It’s natural for people to fill in gaps of information by creating their own narratives that eventually just become fact in their brains. When new information is revealed that doesn’t conform to the narrative they created, it can be confusing.


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Filed Under: Media Tagged With: Jackson Bird, Media, The Harry Potter Alliance, transgender, YouTube

Laura Jane Grace’s True Trans show premieres today

October 10, 2025 by thestakemag Leave a Comment

Levi C. Byers

Whatever you call this span of the information age we’re living through, it seems to be forcing into mainstream conversation particular topics that never had a chance until now. Whether it’s outrage at the way the NFL handles itself or the overdue realization that we need to police sexist assholes on the Internet, people are talking about important stuff in huge numbers.

One of these topics is transgender identity, which can still seem new and confusing to a lot of people. But the conversation about trans issues is happening, and it has a figurehead: Laura Jane Grace. She came out very publicly just a couple years ago, after building a career as the leader of punk rock stalwarts Against Me! Since then she has lived constantly in the public eye, mostly of her own brave choice. The latest Against Me! record is Transgender Dysphoria Blues, which speaks with a raw directness about trans issues.

Following in that vein is a new show, True Trans, from AOL Originals. The trailer centers on Laura Jane Grace as both subject and host, sharing her own background while seeking out other trans people who are willing to share theirs. It’s humbling to see people sacrifice so much of their privacy, to watch them expose their inner selves for the higher goals of education and empathy. No one could have forecasted that trans issues would need a pop culture star during these particular years, but Laura Jane Grace has done a fine job of filling the role. Here’s to the next level of her commitment.

Here’s trailer for True Trans, which debuts today. And below is Against Me! performing on Letterman earlier this year:

Levi C. Byers is a contributor to The Stake. You can find him at leviandlaura.wordpress.com and on Twitter @Leviathan_B.

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Filed Under: Music Tagged With: Against Me!, Levi C. Byers, transgender, Transgender Dysphoria Blues, True Trans

Orange is the New Black star educates about trans history

September 27, 2025 by Andrew DeYoung Leave a Comment

Laverne Cox is the first transgender woman of color to have a leading role on television, in Netflix’s Orange is the New Black. She’s great in the role of prisoner Sophia Burset, one of the only trans characters I’ve ever seen on television or in the movies who is a real person and not a caricature of trans stereotypes.

In a recent appearance on W. Kamau Bell’s Totally Biased, Cox used her newfound fame to educate her audience about trans history. When Bell told Cox that she was a trailblazer—which she absolutely is—she said the following:

I’m not supposed to be here. Our society isn’t culturally coded for black trans women to be able to live out our dreams publicly. And for me, the whole trailblazer thing, I like to think about the trans women who made it possible for me to be here.

Cox then goes on to speak about some of the trailblazing trans women who have inspired her, and it was at this moment I quickly realized how woefully ignorant I am of trans history. Bell himself confessed that he needed to go home and Google the names Cox mentioned. Cox quickly moved on to sketch some of the broad strokes of trans involvement in the Stonewall riots and in the LGBT civil rights movement as a whole. Later, she went on to tell her own story of struggling with people’s perceptions of her gender identity as a child in Mobile, Alabama, and later self-acceptance.

It’s awesome that Orange is the New Black is becoming a platform for a discussion of trans history and issues. The show is fantastic and if you aren’t watching it, you should drop what you’re doing and watch the pilot immediately.

Right after you watch the rest of Laverne Cox’s interview with W. Kamau Bell:

Filed Under: TV Tagged With: Laverne Cox, LGBT, Netflix, Orange is the New Black, trans woman, transgender, W. Kamau Bell

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